Nicki Minaj disapointment

Every time I’m on my way to not hating her and being open to her point of view. This silly hoe makes the most embarrassing video. I have tried to come to terms with her way of making money. I will never judge someone on how they make money because at the end of the day I’m not volunteering to pay their bills. But REALLY Nicki REALLY. It sucks that she might represent for all black women. But in general her newest video was just embarrassing. It was cliche, unoriginal, and just plain whack.

withthepunches:

Last month I wrote breifly about my new found “loneliness” of living on my own. Which is what many would refer to me being alone day in and day out with no computer,television, or company. I of course don’t limit loneliness to those few fators. I am alone but not exactly lonely. It is in fact one of the most amazing things I have ever experienced. I have choices and the option to surround myself with people I enjoy. I am not in the company of most by default. I have the opportunity to breath and think within my own space, without the disruption of anothers presence. I was beginning to think I was anti-social and in denial. I was so easily annoyed with my family member’s presence and I was getting sick to my stomach of children running around.

But being alone has given me a clear persepctive on what I really needed. The idea of no one around to slice through my thought process before I even get a chance to complete one; is just…There are no words to describe how amazing I feel to be alone. I have a big family that I can not escape if I tried, they will always love and care for me through thick and thin. I have recognized that as a beautiful quality that I should appreciate. Its just I need my space. I have always made a point to seperate myself to my sanctuary; which was whatever space that I called my own at the time. I tried to do what I could to collect myself before I got short with the next person. But it never happened, I never got the time to myself to get a breather. It was family time all the time.

Luckily before I did explode I finally have that time and space I wanted. It gives me the opportunity to humble myself and think before I act. Its a blessing to have a family to call your own I’m aware of this. But Im glad I’m able to remove myself from whatever circumstance I can’t control when it comes to family. I now understand that I need to take control of my own life before I try to heed on the burdens of others.

I had a serious hate/love relationship for shea butter growing up. Not only did I hate it because it took me damn long to apply it and a hell of an arm work out. I simply didn’t care for it because my mother said it was good for me. I grew up with shea butter thrown in my face. I can’t recall a time where I had to actually purchase shea butter, my family would recieve it for free. So in turn I had no choice but to use it because if you know one tub of shea butter lasts FOREVER.

Now that I’m not as young and ignorant I can appreciate how special shea butter is. I’ve been making it a habit of putting it on every time I take a bath and every morning. If you would like baby soft and scarless skin. I am telling you now that natural shea butter is the truth.

youngbrownskin:

Frank Ocean-Nature Feels

I’ve been meaning to fuck you in the garden
breathing so hard we both could use the oxygen

(Source: myclarity)

These Four Rooms

It always takes me a bit long to adjust to being completely alone. I don’t always have to be around people I’m just so damn use to it. Its irritating though, when my independence is tested. I could spend hours locked away writing or reading. I found a way to piece peacefulness from commotion and noise, probably because I had to. Till this day I can read quietly in a noisy room hence the training. I don’t mind in a way but I am bothered at how content I am without any forms of communication with the outside world. Beside my cell phone (which barely counts, the screen has been broken for months and I can only see in daylight). I have yet to go through a series of any deep epiphany. I’m just not there yet (if that’s a place I’ll ever be). I love the company of others. I don’t like to hear myself talk, honestly, but I can carry on a lonnnng drawn out conversation. I love a room full of laughing people (as long as I’m in on the jokes) and I adore debates. I discovered something about myself which is more important then what I know I enjoy most. What I hold more dear than conversation, and what I put on my own crystal pedestal. Is the option to be surrounded.

LORD!

I was starting to think that I hated my family and I wanted to be far away for as long as possible. I thought I was beginning to hate my bf’s face. At some point I deemed myself anti-social and one of those people who claim they hate other people. I was traveling back and fourth and was forced to cram a week’s events into a weekend. Tiresome I was and routine was messing with psyche. Its something about routine that does not cut it for me. I always question EVERYTHING when something doesn’t change. 

From this I discovered I needed space to breath on a constant, not when I need it and not when I am at a lost for air. But I need a chance to think in my own space without someone else’s voice. The judgement that happens within my own mind is not only isolated from the worlds opinion on me. But I can allow myself to think at an easier pace because I am completely alone. No irritated interruptions , no forced conversations, and no distracting media. I can except things much easier and it doesn’t bother me.

Its a miracle.

But i know it won’t last long. So I will take my hour long baths with no worry and eat eat eat.

thenainattraxn:

mouss-e:

somepinkfluffy-dinosaur:

‎”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.) Reblog this!

  
It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a
situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…

FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:



1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

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POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:


1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:
can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

 
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would 
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

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FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.


1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or
purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
 

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be
hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
 

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
  

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.


If u have a heart or compassion reblog this post.
‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

 
REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW
ATLEAST PEOPLES WILL KNOW WATS GOIN IN THIS WORLD.
So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.
I hope you all will Reblog. Lets See how many of you really care for this.

DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT NOT REBLOGGING THIS! IT COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.

shit. i read this from start to finish.

(Source: itssofluffy-im-gonna-die)

If I had to choose a blog of my favorite it would be this one. Out of the 60 that I have I am sure this one speaks to me the most. 

Internet Presence

Just a few days ago I discovered the huloop about “Moptop Mavern” (a popular fashion blogger) and her involvement in scamming women out of thousands of dollars. I knew about her disappearance because I was a reader of her blog, I knew about the reasons and was genuinely concerned with her health. I was thinking, too bad she can’t make anymore money on her jewelry. I never looked too far into it because quit frankly I will never know exactly what she’s doing because I only know what she told me. I’m not curious enough about anyone online to know every detail about who they are. At the end of the day I don’t know them personally so I’ll never really know anyway. I looked into it and seen how most women were now going to be more cautious about who they gave their money to, as a result of her deceit. 

It didn’t hit me until I started to think about the fact that I also sell jewelry online. Oh well would you look at that. Of course it doesn’t mean she’s responsible for my personal decline in sales. If that were to be. That’s ridiculous and not what I’m trying to. But her bad choices will contribute to a credibility to small business who sell their product online. The same way the decline in individual style has been watered downed based off of availability to fashion. For one small example once upon a time jump suits were not made for everyone and not meant for every day wear. It being sold in stores like Forever21 and H&M they then became for everyone. Not that there is something %100 wrong with that. It just makes it hard for the once simplistic and sexy jumpsuit to be just that. 

My whole rant goes into how easy it is to be drowned out within the internet. When you do,say, and wear all the rights things it’s especially easy to come out on top. I ONLY feel comfortable even complaining about this, because in person I do not and probably will never have this problem. My presence in person is undeniable. Its just frustrating for me to sign into Tumblr and see so many be recognized for doing pretty much nothing. This may come off like I drank some hate juice this morning. But in all honesty there is every ounce of truth in my pout. 

Its almost embarrassing that me being only 134 pounds that I have to think of loosing weight. I could only image what television does for other women who are actually insecure about who they are. I’m throwing my TV out the window though if I start thinking about my butt. That’s when I know its getting out of hand.

This is me nonetheless strutting my healthy. 

Who the F$*# cares

I’ve come up with this go-to slogan for myself to justify all things that are wrong to other people. “If I can’t get arrested for it then….”.

Depending on how messy the food is I usually eat in public regardless of where I am. Obviously on a crowded  train I won’t pull out a two piece and fries because I do consider people who haven’t eaten or can’t eat. Although that would be pretty ghetto regardless of my consideration. Like the other day when I was in Soho I just could not resist pulling out my soup from Dean and Deluca. (I have found a new love for soup because of them).  It was their butternut squash and I was cold so I had to finish it off.I kind of look at it like as long as I’m not dressed like a bum I won’t look like a bum doing “bummish” things.
But despite of all that I as a eater could genuinely care less of what anyone thinks. I’ve noticed myself experiencing emotional eating which is nothing to brag or boast about. I have always eaten off of impulse and pretty much whatever I felt like. I cut back on fast food and hard candy about a year and a half ago to salvage my body of the other heavy foods I ingest. Because I found a way to diet and exercise on my terms there was always a balance. Recently not so much. It never occurred to me that my sudden consciousness of my weight was solely because of television. I never thought it would happen to me but with help from social media I have had this urge to want to watch what I eat. Lol this must sound so silly but really I was always one to not think hard about what I ate after I deemed it OK. So for me to unexpectedly take note of my eating habits because someone else did. Is NOT how I get down when it comes to how I do things and when. I bake most of my meats because I feel it tastes better and is much healthier. But the media can go f$*# itself, for real, everything about how they relay their messages burns my soul. 

I though, have absolutely nothing to worry about because I look damn good. I will continue to diet and exercise the way I think is right with plenty of fruits and vegetables. I will also eat as many heavy meats as I like while eating out AND making enough home cooked meals. If I want nutella and pretzels (I finally tried it) then I will do so but if I’d like some grapes and cheese cubes I will also have that. 

Seriously people eat what you think is right don’t ever worry about how someone else looks or what their numbers are. Do your own personal research and figure out what works for YOUR diet. Weight is too personal and isn’t meant for anyone else to judge.